Anger Management

Do Relationships Need Anger Management?

As I licensed psychotherapist, I have seen hundreds of couples in my clinical practice. As an anger management expert, I have seen equally the same number of couples come in for anger management couples coaching". While doing psychotherapy with couples does not always uncover issues related to anger, I can say with almost 100% certainty that anger reduction work always covers issues relevant to good communication, listening, empathy, and expectation management.

Why Do Couples Seek Anger Counseling?

Couples frequently come in wanting to undercover the deeper issues that haunt regarding their anger, however, I tend to see faster results by simply teaching couples effective techniques for improving the quality of their interactions. Most partners get into fights because they are experiencing needs that the other partner isn't fulfilling. It could be basic needs for affection, security, intimacy, respect, appreciation, or something else. Anger counseling covers so many skills that couples almost see immediate benefit. It could be as simple as changing the facial expressions in one's face, or expressing feelings more directly. Sometimes even slight modifications in behavior can have dramatic results.

How Can Couples Best Learn These Anger Management Skills?

Anger control management can be learned in several easy to use ways that are very practical. While I have always encouraged couples to make the time to participate together, it is also possible to gain these same skills individually or through an online program offered by a licensed professional. Quality online anger control classes are an excellent way to learn effective strategies without having to spend time away from other commitments. Online anger classes can be taken from anywhere where one has access to a computer. Even a smart phone will work!. Live anger management classes are also an option if coming in together isn't possible. Isn't your relationship worth getting help for? Don't wait until it's too late.

Relationships are most at risk for disaster when they wait till the last minute to get help. Don't wait until anger has changed the relationship to the point where you don't care any more or you simply can't stay in it any longer. Early intervention is key for relationships to succeed. Just as you wouldn't wait to see a doctor if you had heavy and powerful chest pains, don't wait until your relationship is falling apart to see help.

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.